Have you ever had this vibe that something is just off. You don’t know what it is, but something tells you that your man is secretly with another woman.

Maybe there are clues or maybe it’s just a nagging, gut instinct. You might try not to think about it because every time it crosses your mind, it makes you feel sick.

Let’s take the following scenario just to give an example of the kind of thing women go through when it comes to cheating.

You’re out with your guy and he keeps anxiously looking at his cellphone. Odd, he never texts you as much as he’s currently texting the person he is right now. He excuses himself… and takes his phone with him.

Usually he’s really quick at using the bathroom, but right now it feels like you are living each second as a year while you wait for him to get back. You look at your phone, and it’s been ten minutes before he finally gets back to the table and sits down. (lets take a break)

Answer this for your own relationship evaluation.

Should You even Be Worried?  

A. Yes

B. No

If you are worried what Is He Doing to make you feel that way? 

A. Staying out late, changing his hygeiene drastically, avoiding you, lashing out.

B. Not returning texts for an hour or two, staying out with his friends

Now What Should You Do?

A. Have an open honest conversation about trust with him.

B. Get to the root of why he doesn't respond in a timely fashion

C. Just Let it go

Back to what we were talking about, the rest of the night seems to go well, so you try and let it go. You ask if he can show you a picture he took of the two of you together as an excuse to look at his phone to figure out if he’s secretly texting some girl behind your back. Then he starts acting shady again the minute you ask the question.

Everybody wonders about it at least once:

“What would I do if my boyfriend/girlfriend was cheating on me?”

It pops into your head at the most random times, you give it some thought, and then that’s that.

There’s no reason to think about it again.

Unless…

Unless you’re given some sort of reason to think they might be cheating.

Unless they raise your suspicions a little bit.

Unless they do something shady, and all of a sudden, it goes from a hypothetical question to a real question very quickly…

So do you know how to read whether your partner is cheating or not? Do you know ALL the telltale signs? Do you know how to figure it out for sure?

You probably don’t – unless you’re a private detective. My favorite cliche saying is all things done in the dark will come to the light. So my advice would be don't go searching and snooping through his phone. You setting yourself up for failure, the easiest way for me has just been being direct and saying "Baby, are you talking to other girls?"

I peep his body language and if he says yeah, Il say ok so were in a open relationship?

He will say "Hell naw, you mine"

I will reply "So what you telling me is i'm yours, but you theirs?" What kind of sense does that make? Then I say "You know what don't even worry about its cool."

Then at that moment he starts to visualize you with another man and trust me if he really cares about you and is afraid of losing you he will get some act right after that conversation!